homosexuality

seems to be a very hot topic these days. and not exactly in a good way. i wanted to talk about some instances of supposedly homosexuality that i've come across recently. just to share.

firstly, there was a movie screening in soci today. it was a french movie, "my life in pink". about a 7 year old boy (ludovic) who wishes he was a girl. the kid was so into his wanting-to-be-a-girl that he fell 'in love' with his neighbour's son and was proclaimed to the world that when he grew up, he'd be a girl and marry him. ludovic crossed dressed and wore makeup at times, to the point that he 'kidnapped' snow white from the school play and took her place instead, embarassing his whole family, resulting in his expulsion from school. the situation got so bad that ludovic got beaten up in the boy's shower room and the family had to move away from the neighbourhood. and then ludovic met a girl, christine who was his polar opposite. ie wanted to be a boy. it just ended with his family saying that no matter what ludovic does, or becomes, they will still love him, he is still their child. on one hand, it says that kids like these are just normal people really. that their sexual orientation is not really important about whether or not they are worth of love and acceptance. on the other hand, i found it unsatisfactory, cos they don't seem to be addressing the main problem that the kid is unsure of his sexual orientation. how's the kid going to fit in in future? nothing is resolved to me.

then, there was this programme on tv i saw, the topci for the week was this thing called genital-anomaly. (i think that's how it's spelled) it's a medical condition in which the person is neither male nor female. ie, the person was born with the genitals of one sex but with the genetic makeup of the other sex. now, will society brand them as homosexuals? this is an interesting case because, which gender does that person really belong to? the doctors/psychologists interviewed on the programme said that generally, they will let the person continue with the sex assigned to them at birth, cos that's what the person is used to. so, is this person considered homosexual? to the world, the person probably looks/acts not quite belonging to the sex they are assigned.

recently, there is a very controversial topic happening on the clayboard (like i mentioned). it's a claim that clay is gay, and had had sex with a man he met on the internet, with the intention of going into a homosexual relationship with that man. and now, that man wants clay to come out and admit to the world that he is gay, because he thinks that supposedly clay would make a good 'role model' for the gay community. (ya right. look at elton john) anyway, i think that something like this, as juicy a gossip as it is, doesn't have to be flaunted to the world. what's the point in proclaiming that a person is homosexual? why is it such a big deal when people, especially celebs announce that they are gay?

i guess, in this part of the world, sexuality and sexual orientation is still quite a prickly topic. i don't think asian society has yet come to the open-minded level of the western society regarding this. so, because of this, i think that all these discussions of homosexuality, well, they're personal stuff and by rights, should not be flaunted so openly. not that it's anything to be ashamed of, being a homosexual. but then again, i don't think it's anything to be proud of either. whatever a person is or decides to be; male, female, other, is his/her own decision. i think that society should not encourage homosexuality. i found a word that probably describes society's attitude towards homosexuals; homophobia, meaning an irrational fear of, aversion to, or discrimination against homosexuality or homosexuals.

but i also think that society should not condemn those who are homosexuals. i think of those with genital-anomaly. is it their fault that they may be homosexual? i had a friend who once said that if she ever became the dictator of singapore, she would kill all the homosexuals. and i feel very disturbed that people actually have that kind of mindset. it's just as crazy and ungrounded as hitler wanting to kill all the jews. ok, homosexuality may be a lifestyle choice for some people. again, like i said, it's not necessary to flaunt it to the world. i guess, it's more important to be comfortable with who you are, rather than what you are.

ok. all for now. just some food for thought for you all.

happy CNY.